What are Strokes?

What are Strokes?

Strokes are one of my favourite TA topics. Firstly, by definition, a Stroke is a unit of recognition. A compliment, smile, hug, words of support and encouragement. Strokes can also be negative as in criticisms, hits, frown, however, let’s not go there. Strokes...
Ego States

Ego States

This post is to give you TA Snippets of theory to hopefully entice you to want more. More will be added on a regular basis so please do keep coming back for interesting snippets. Transactional Analysis theory is fascinating, powerful, and effective in creating...
Relationship Skills – No Negativity

Relationship Skills – No Negativity

Ponder what it will mean to eliminate all negativity from your communication with each other. Negativity as in criticisms, putdowns, name calling, abusive language and abusive treatment, and treating your partner in a way of “You are not OK”, is destructive to a...
Relationship Skills – The Wall of Trivia

Relationship Skills – The Wall of Trivia

In any relationship, when one or both partners hold in feelings and don’t say what they are hurt, angry or frustrated about, a brick wall often develops in the Child Ego state. I call this the wall of trivia because many of the frustrations are small things, but when...
Communication

Communication

Relationship skills are based on good communication, it is the most important aspect of relationships. Almost always the first thing couples list as the problem with their relationship is that they don’t communicate well. Before I give you the FREE Relationship skills...